I don’t even like the term “selfish knitting.” People don’t use that language for other hobbies - can you imagine telling someone they were doing “selfish yoga” or “selfish fishing”? When we talk about “selfish knitting,” what we really mean is that we’re knitting something for ourselves, rather than for someone else. I think sometimes we, as a knitting community, are so generous with our time and talents that it starts to become the expectation that we don’t “waste time” on knitting unless we’re working on a project for someone else.
Today we’re going to break through that misconception and take back our knitting!
I believe that knitting for yourself is a form of self-care. Why do we knit for other people, after all? Because we find them worthy; because we value them and we want them to know they are loved. Because we care enough about them to make something with our own two hands, just for them.
Don’t we deserve to give ourselves that same level of love and care?
When you get on an airplane they will tell you that in case of an emergency, you need to put on your own oxygen mask before you help someone else. The idea is that you can’t help anyone if you’re suffocating - and the same is true of the rest of your life! You can’t help or serve others if you’re not taking good care of yourself, first.
If you want to better serve the world, you’ve got to take care of yourself! It’s absolutely okay to put yourself first, at least every once in awhile.
If you tend to default to the act of knitting as giving and you’d like to find more time to knit as a form of self-care, here are some tips to get you started:
Alternate your projects.
If you have more than one project on the needles at once, make sure at least one of them is just for you. Keep it in the rotation, and don’t cast it aside in order to prioritize all those projects for others.
If you prefer to knit monogamously, then each time you finish a project for someone else, cast one on for yourself. Even if it’s just a quick mug cozy or a hat, you deserve something special!
Give in to inspiration.
Take some time to browse the available patterns on Ravelry, and look for projects that call to you. Choose something really special, something you would normally not knit because it’s a little bit “too much,” and decide that within the next quarter, you will make that project for yourself (or at least start on it!).
Remember your value.
Remember that you deserve just as much love and attention (and just as many knitting projects!) as you give to everyone else. You are the most knit-worthy person you know!
Use your passion.
If you have a passion for knitting for others, use that as your motivation to knit for yourself! Remind yourself that you want to be at your best when you’re in the spirit of giving, and in order to do that, you need to take the time to regularly refill your own creativity.
What are you working on that’s just for you? I’d love to see it! Post a photo on social media and tag it with #spreadingaroha so I can share the self-care love with you
Join my upcoming FREE 5-day challenge!
Once you’ve taken care of yourself, if you’re feeling inspired to make a quick + lovely project for someone else, I’d love for you to join my free MKAL + photo challenge later this month! For 5 days, we’ll explore The Giver Fibre Muse, and dig deep into our own Giver tendencies. We’ll share photos on social media, come together as a community, and also knit along together on a simple project for a knit-worthy recipient.
Are you with us? Click here to learn more or sign up below!